Infertility Counseling & Therapy
Access the Support You Need to Navigate this Difficult Journey and Reconnect with Yourself, Others, and All of the Possibilities Life Offers
Struggling with infertility can be emotionally exhausting in a way that feels impossible to explain to anyone who hasn’t lived it.
And it can bring with it a very personal kind of grief … one that’s often hard for others to recognize or understand: grief for the version of your life you had planned for and dreamed of that now seems to be slipping through your fingers.
To compound matters further, infertility can change how you see yourself, experience your body, relate to your partner, and react to seemingly simple things: pregnancy announcements, baby showers, others talking about their children, and even casual comments from friends or family that wind up stinging more than they “should.”
If you’re like many of the clients I work with, you may be asking yourself:
- “Why is this happening?”
- “Why do I feel so ashamed, jealous, numb … or angry?”
- “Why are my partner and I handling this so differently?”
- “Can our relationship survive this?”
- “Will I ever feel whole again?”
If any of this feels familiar, I want you to know: you’re not alone. And you don’t have to navigate any of this on your own.
Infertility counseling and therapy offers a compassionate, supportive, judgment-free space in which you can calmly address your anxieties and fears, listen to your intuition, discover what you truly want and need, and choose the best path forward for you, whether you’re:
- Trying to conceive and beginning to suspect something may be off
- Feeling overwhelmed by all of the uncertainty that comes with infertility evaluations and medical advice
- Already undergoing infertility treatment and struggling with the emotional rollercoaster of constant waiting, wondering, and decision-making
- Dealing with feelings of ambivalence that come with their own discomfort and guilt
- Facing a painful “what now?” as you confront unsuccessful cycles, loss, or the possibility of stopping treatment
- A single intended parent or LGBTQIA+ couple trying to navigate a complex, and often isolating process
- Looking for support as you explore donor conception, surrogacy, adoption, or other family-building paths
No matter where you are on your fertility journey, the myriad emotions that yo’’re experiencing are real – and they need to be tended to. Otherwise, you risk making an already challenging process even more painful.
Fortunately, infertility counseling and therapy can help you do just this – give space and a voice to your feelings – so you feel more grounded, more at peace with the uncertainty, and more connected to yourself, the people you love, and all of the possibilities that life offers.
How Infertility Counseling & Therapy Can Help
Infertility doesn’t just raise questions about having a child – it can lead us to question our identity, relationships, sense of self-worth, and our ability to plan and control our future.
Counseling and therapy provide a safe, supportive, structured space for you to process everything you’re going through, so you can:
- Work through complex grief and loss, including the loss of potential futures that may feel out of reach
- Reduce anxiety, rumination, and the pressure to “figure it all out”
- Move past feelings of shame, self-blame, or the idea that your body has failed you … or that you’ve somehow failed yourself or those you love
- Strengthen communication and emotional intimacy with your partner – especially if the two of you are coping in vastly different ways
- Navigate the impact infertility can have on your sex life
- Set and maintain healthy boundaries, so you don’t feel overwhelmed by others’ advice or well-meaning (but painful) comments
- Gain clarity around difficult decisions – treatment options, timelines, finances, alternatives, or when to pause or stop trying
- Acknowledge and resolve any feelings of confusion, isolation, overwhelm, anger, or even relief that can come with the complex trauma infertility presents
- Reconnect with who you truly are, rediscover a sense of hope, and move forward with confidence even in the face of uncertainty
None of this is about forcing optimism or rushing you to a conclusion. It’s about helping you reconnect and stay connected – to your emotions, your intuition, your relationships, and yourself – while you learn to navigate a process that can all too easily take over your life.
Whether you’re considering infertility counseling and therapy individually or as a couple, the goal is the same: to explore who you are and what you need to make the best choices possible – ones that support and celebrate you and everything life has to offer, regardless of any outcomes.
Am I the Best Infertility Therapist for You?
Our relationships are where we experience our deepest wounds. Yet our relationships also provide the greatest opportunity for healing and growth.
This is especially true for infertility, which not only affects our relationship with ourselves – flooding us with unresolved attachment, identity, and security issues from our past while simultaneously making us question our futures – but also affects our relationships with everyone around us.
Yet these same relational issues can become the catalyst to create profoundly positive transformation in your life.
This is why, as a licensed marriage and family therapist and behavioral and mental health therapist who’s been helping individual adults and couples in Berkeley, California, for the better part of the past two decades, I bring a deeply relational, psychodynamic, and attachment-focused lens to my work.
This means we’ll work together so you understand not just what you’re feeling, but why you’re feeling the way you do – how your emotional and relationship history may be shaping your feelings and experiences in the present.
Together, we’ll explore:
- How infertility is affecting your relationship with your body, your sense of self, and your expectations of others and life in general
- Attachment dynamics – whether and how you reach out for help, protect yourself, withdraw from others, or shut down under stress
- Ways you can hold grief and uncertainty without letting them define you
- How to communicate more honestly and effectively – with others and with yourself
- How deeper beliefs you may hold about your self-worth, your relationships, and the world around you may be amplifying your discomfort and pain
I’m not here to tell you what to do. I’m here to listen closely to everything you have to say, ask thoughtful questions, help you notice patterns you may not be aware of, and support you as you learn to listen more deeply to, and trust, yourself – so you can make choices that are aligned with who you truly are.
This all being said, the most important element in successful therapy is the healing relationship you and I create together.
This is why the only way to really know whether I’m the best infertility therapist for you is for you to contact me today, schedule a free initial consultation, ask any questions you have, and see if we feel like a good fit for working together. I encourage you to interview a few other therapists, too, to make sure you’re making the best choice for you.
Remember, infertility may be a challenging chapter in your story, but you don’t have to let it define you.
Reach out today, schedule a free initial consultation, and discover how infertility counseling and therapy can help you navigate this difficult journey and reconnect with yourself, others, and all of the possibilities life offers.